Working as The New York Doula for over a decade, I\u2019ve seen quite a few dads-to-be become totally overwhelmed and unprepared leading up to childbirth. Although dads aren\u2019t the ones in the spotlight on the actual day of labor, their support in the delivery process is equally important. Not sure how to handle a baby on the way? Start by avoiding these 10 things during labor:<\/p>\n
1. Don\u2019t stay out too late as the due date nears.<\/strong> 2. Don\u2019t save everything for last minute.<\/strong> 3. Don\u2019t invite your family, co-workers, neighbors and mailman to the hospital.<\/strong> 4. Don\u2019t get so up-close and personal.<\/strong> 5. Don\u2019t order peperoni pizza when you get hungry.<\/strong> 6. Don\u2019t hold onto expectations.<\/strong> 7. Don\u2019t ever feel insulted, ever.<\/strong> 8. Don\u2019t try to be a hero. Look away if something is making you light headed.<\/strong> 9. Don\u2019t share minute-by-minute updates over a group text.<\/strong> 10. Don\u2019t take on the responsibility of doing it all.<\/strong> Working as The New York Doula for over a decade, I\u2019ve seen quite a few dads-to-be become totally overwhelmed and unprepared leading up to childbirth. Although [\u2026]<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[33,34],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3129","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-category-1-en-en-de","category-all-posts-de"],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3129","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3129"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3129\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3129"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3129"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thenewyorkdoula.com\/de\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3129"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nI once had a dad stay out with friends until 3:00 am and came home to his wife in labor. In a panic, he drank endless amounts of water in order to sober up for the birth. Thankfully, as the hours passed, so did the booze out of his system. Within at least two weeks of the due date, set a reasonable curfew and think twice before ordering just-one-more drink.<\/p>\n
\nSigning up for childbirth classes pre-labor prepares you for things like common signs of labor, breathing techniques and newborn care. It\u2019s also a great opportunity to talk about topics like natural birthing, C-sections and epidurals. And, most importantly, have a game plan: know what hospital you\u2019re going to, who to call and what to pack. Once you get to the hospital, there\u2019s no turning back, unless you forgot your wife.<\/p>\n
\nThe last thing a mother in labor wants is a whole village breathing down her neck. Discuss ahead of time a list of people you would like to invite to the hospital within your immediate family and close circle of friends. Having all your loved ones there to share this special moment sounds like a great idea, but in the moment, there will only be one new set of eyes grabbing your attention.<\/p>\n
\nThe idea of having your sweaty and bloated face framed in a camera or video lens leading up to labor is as \u2013 if not more \u2013 appalling as contractions. My suggestion? Record from a distance. Sometimes, there needs to be a moment of personal space to breathe. Moving into the armchair across the room for a 2-minute timeout isn\u2019t considered rude, it may actually be quite appreciated.<\/p>\n
\nThis is the most important rule in the preggie guide. Stay away from snacks with a strong scent, because the smells are amplified for someone in labor. Stick to nuts, nutrition bars or plain crackers that have minimal odors. If you need something heartier, excuse yourself to eat outside the room.<\/p>\n
\nEveryone has a birth plan, but let\u2019s call it birth preferences. Your birthing experience may be completely different from your best friend\u2019s experience \u2013 every birth story is unique. Always listen to the doctor or doula\u2019s advice, remain calm, and be flexible with your decisions.<\/p>\n
\nEmotions and hormones can sometimes translate as screaming insults that have no meaning or truth behind them. Going through labor is A LOT to deal with \u2013 it\u2019s important not to take things personally. Imagine a time when you said something you regretted from a place of exhaustion or discomfort. Then, multiply that feeling by 100. I\u2019ve assured \u201dmy\u201d dads on several occasions: what is said in the delivery room stays in the delivery room.<\/p>\n
\nCry if you feel like it. And allow yourself to be scared if that\u2019s what\u2019s coming up. These are all normal emotions that arise as an expectant father. The last thing you want to do is try to be a tough guy and end up passed out, on the floor, when your family needs you most.<\/p>\n
\nThe experiences you share in the delivery room are intimate and precious. The best thing you can do is: stay present. There are wonderful stories that are great to share on social media; this is not one of them. Allow the story of your child\u2019s birth to remain private and special in your mind, and forever in your heart.<\/p>\n
\nExpectant dads agree the help and support of a doula is priceless. A doula can help figure out a birth plan, remain on call for questions and also take some of the responsibilities off dad-to-be during labor. Many mothers I have worked with admitted feeling much safer when a doula is next to them during birth. 6 weeks after birth, mothers who had a doula tend to be less anxious, more confident, more satisfied with their partner and more likely to be breastfeeding. Interested in hiring a doula? Please contact me below:
\nStephanie@thenewyorkdoula.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"